Vegas Vacation

A couple weeks ago we took our son, Trevor, to Las Vegas to celebrate his twenty first birthday.  Getting to celebrate milestones with adult children is new and fun and different and exciting. Gone are the days of themed parties like Buzz Lightyear and Spiderman, with cupcakes and party hats, party games and pinatas.  And I’ll miss that. But it has been replaced by something new. Sharing. Camaraderie. And common experiences.    Continue reading “Vegas Vacation”

Seashells and Butter Knives

On this day twenty-five years ago, we got engaged.  In a tiny, little beach cabin, with the wind blowing outside and the Oregon rain falling on the windows, we sat eating dessert by candlelight.  The calm after the storm. My husband-to-be took a deep breath and pointed to a small seashell strategically placed next to the candles. “Your ‘real dessert’ is in that shell.” Continue reading “Seashells and Butter Knives”

Pour Love

In At Least Thirteen Different Ways

“I don’t want anyone strolling off, down some path that goes nowhere.  And mark that you do this with humility and discipline — not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love, alert at noticing differences and quick at mending fences.”  ~Ephesians 4:3 Continue reading “Pour Love”

Staying Married

Staying married.  People ask us the secret to staying married so long.  Because in 2018, twenty-four years is considered a long time.  It’s not really a secret. And it hasn’t always been a picnic.  There was no mysterious marriage recipe that was handed down to us from generations past.  I will say that there have been only a few divorces in our families. So divorce doesn’t initially come to mind when times are tough.  But there have been many times one of us wanted to leave. I have personally packed a bag, ready to leave, a few times. I’ve also been “asked” to leave.   Continue reading “Staying Married”